I’ve been struggling recently with the state that our society is in. And no, it’s not because of all the political issues that are occurring around the world (although that’s pretty awful and kind of links in!) No, it’s because the majority of people are living their lives wishing that they were somewhere or someONE else!
I was talking to a friend the other day about how social media is creating so many issues in every day life. We have constant access to distractions if we’re feeling sad, we have constant access to the ‘best parts’ of other people’s lives and so we’re never really spending time with ourselves. Our eyes never stop scrolling, our minds never stop judging. This is creating a society of people who are not able to love themselves. They don’t see themselves worthy of their own love and I find this incredibly sad.
I’m not saying in any way that I’m completely happy with who I am and how I look and that I love everything about myself, not even close, but I do make an effort every day to try and find something that I like about myself, something that I’m proud of, and it has changed my life radically! I used to hate so many things about myself physically that I could not change, my height, my broad shoulders, my big nose etc. I used to hate my mentality, not believing that I could do anything or be anyone. Meditation and yoga changed that for me.
In nearly every yoga class I ask my students to think of 5 things that they’re grateful for that had happened throughout their day, and then 5 people that they’re grateful to have in their lives, and then 5 things that they’re grateful about themselves. Everyone sits there with their eyes closed, without any pressure to actually think about these 5 things. So in one class I asked them write their answers down. This is where it became an issue, when they actually had to follow through with what I’d asked them.
There are so many INCREDIBLE people who just don’t love themselves. Who struggle to even find a few things to be grateful about themselves. Loving yourself doesn’t mean that you are egotistical, it doesn’t mean that you are selfish, in fact it’s the most selfless act you could learn. To love yourself means that you own your power, you own every aspect of yourself and then you get to love other people so much more fully than you ever could without showing yourself that same love.
Self love is not all about ‘me, me, me’ but it feels like that at first because we live in such a messed up society where we are taught the opposite of what would actually help us in life. We are conditioned to think that loving ourselves is selfish and that it is the norm to judge and criticise ourselves but what good does that do? Wouldn’t it be better if we loved ourselves and in turn could love others just as they are rather than judging and critiquing others for the way that they chose to live their lives.
When we love ourselves, we don’t need the approval of others to be who we want to be or to do what you want to do. It allows you to follow your dreams and not give a damn what others think of you.
So try it, right now, think of (and write down!) 7 things that you’re grateful for about yourself, physically, mentally, whatever it is just write that stuff down! And do it again tomorrow, and the next day, and the next day, and look back and read all of the lovely things that you’ve got going for yourself!
Let me know what you find out about yourselves